Continuing our discussion on the same trait prevailing in siblings, I have heard about a sect in Himalayas, where the girl marries not one boy but all his brothers too. These people claim descent from Pandavas and their presiding deity is Draupadi, the wife of 5 Pandavas.
Though economically this system of polyandry is advisable to avoid fragmentation of the ancestral property such as land holdings, just imagine the plight of the wife! The time taken to understand and get adjusted to one husband is multiplied by the number of husbands!! Of course, there is a time saving factor here in that, understanding one man is as good as understanding all of them, they being of the same stock. But, what about their mannerisms? It is bad enough to see the mannerisms and quirks of the husband reproduced in the sons, but just imagine if they are reflected in ‘all the sons and all the husbands’!!
Sometimes, when my brothers- in law come to meet my husband, I almost expect a Tala vadya Kutcheri (a Rhythm concert) to start any time as they all have the habit of slapping their thighs with their open palms whenever there is a lull in the conversation.
Coming back to Draupadi, the princess was a little dumb. When God presented himself in front of her to bestow a boon on her after her meditation, she was all flustered and nervous. So, she blurted out her wish for a good husband not once but 5 times. God, with a great sense of humor blessed her with the 5 husbands who collectively called themselves ‘Pandavas’. But, she was lucky. Though the Pandavas referred to themselves as ‘brothers’, their varied parentage certainly endowed them with different traits. Though the first three were of the same mother, the paternal genes were strong enough not to let the maternal ones dominate. So, Yudhishtira was known for his obsession for truth and justice. Bhima prized brawn over brain. Arjuna inherited his predilection for pretty faces from his father Indra. As for the last two, they must have had something of the smartness of the mother, Madri. Madri wanted to make the best of the opportunity offered by her co-wife Kunti in a fit of generosity, before she could withdraw it. So, she shot two fruits with one stone and got a pair of twin sons by propitiating the twin Gods Ashvini.
So, Draupadi really had quite a bit of variety though she married ‘brothers’.
But, I strongly recommend that when there is a choice, one should go for variety and marry men from different families than marry a set of brothers.
Variety is indeed the spice of life!