Continuing our discussion on the same trait prevailing in siblings, I have heard about a sect in Himalayas, where the girl marries not one boy but all his brothers too. These people claim descent from Pandavas and their presiding deity is Draupadi, the wife of 5 Pandavas.

Though economically this system of polyandry is advisable to avoid fragmentation of the ancestral property such as land holdings, just imagine the plight of the wife!  The time taken to understand and get adjusted to one husband is multiplied by the number of husbands!! Of course, there is a time saving factor here in that, understanding one man is as good as understanding all of them, they being of the same stock. But, what about their mannerisms? It is bad enough to see the mannerisms and quirks of the husband reproduced in the sons, but just imagine if they are reflected in ‘all the sons and all the husbands’!!

Sometimes, when my brothers- in law come to meet my husband, I almost expect a Tala vadya Kutcheri (a Rhythm concert) to start any time as they all have the habit of slapping their thighs with their open palms whenever there is a lull in the conversation.

Coming back to Draupadi, the princess was a little dumb. When God presented himself in front of her to bestow a boon on her after her meditation, she was all flustered and nervous. So, she blurted out her wish for a good husband not once but 5 times. God, with a great sense of humor blessed her with the 5 husbands who collectively called themselves ‘Pandavas’. But, she was lucky. Though the Pandavas referred to themselves as ‘brothers’, their varied parentage certainly endowed them with different traits. Though the first three were of the same mother, the paternal genes were strong enough not to let the maternal ones dominate. So, Yudhishtira was known for his obsession for truth and justice. Bhima prized brawn over brain. Arjuna inherited his predilection for pretty faces from his father Indra. As for the last two, they must have had something of the smartness of the mother, Madri. Madri wanted to make the best of the opportunity offered by her co-wife Kunti in a fit of generosity, before she could withdraw it. So, she shot two fruits with one stone and got a pair of twin sons by propitiating the twin Gods Ashvini.

So, Draupadi really had quite a bit of variety though she married ‘brothers’.

But, I strongly recommend that when there is a choice, one should go for variety and marry men from different families than marry a set of brothers.

Variety is indeed the spice of life!


18 responses »

  1. vimala madon says:

    I quite share your view and shudder at the idea of having 5 husbands who are clones of each other.Years ago, in my office in Aurangabad, I noticed the ladies forever being on some fast or the other. Once when I asked what that day’s fast was for, the lady said it was for her husband, that she gets the same husband in all her 7 lives. “How boring!” I exclaimed without thinking but that remark branded me for the rest of my stint there as bold and shocking.

  2. Vimala Madam,

    who but you could write such witty stuff even out of a very debatable and usually serious topic like this?

  3. vimala ramu says:

    Thank you Geeta,Shail, Sneha and Pankaja for your kind words.

  4. Nuggehalli Pankaja says:

    Vimala, I remember a Punjabi novel translated by Kushvant Singh wherein the story revolves over the strange custom
    in that village (Maybe everywhere in the region?)- ‘the
    brother of the husband ,however young he is, marrying the widow of his brother however old she is ! What a pathetic
    position for the young boy !
    Whic h is better, marrying all the brothers or the young one
    till then looked upon fondly as her son?
    I think we are in the sanest region. But, with birth of girls
    owing to many factors God knows what our boys will be in for in future
    I enjoy and admire your humour,it is a gift, maintain it.

  5. Sneha says:

    Hi Vimala,

    My God, Vimala ! You should seriously open a laughter’s club and a witty quotes dot com website. I’m telling you.


  6. Dear Vimala,

    I always enjoy reading your work. This post made me do what you make others do best – laugh……

    Good one.

  7. Enjoyed irrespective of the seriousness of the issue.

  8. Beyniaz says:

    Ha ha ha ha ha!

  9. Shernaz says:

    Vimala, smiles are gauranteed from reading your blogs, but one can’t miss the satire either. I pity those girls who become a commodity to be shared by the men of the household. Nonetheless, I am still smiling because of the humour in your style of writing. Thanks

  10. vimala ramu says:

    Thank you Isabel and Smita for reading my blog.

  11. Smita Luthra says:

    😀 Vimala Ji. Much impressed with your perspective and the way you weave it in words laced with humour. Another interesting article from your pen. You inspire me.

  12. isabel says:

    Hmmm… still have a big smile plastered on my chubby face! 🙂 That’s why we were told as a child to learn how to pray properly. Either solemnly in the privacy of our room or in a sacred place with all our heart and not to chant our prayers repeatedly. Now we don’t want to be in the same predicament with that poor princess! hahaha 🙂 🙂 🙂

    Thanks Vimala♥ for always bringing priceless smile and laughter into our lives.

  13. You have penned a satire Vimla Ji. Now-a-days also polyandry is practiced in several villages of India, not because of any choice on the part of the poor girl but because of the tilted sex ratio. None can feel and understand the pain of such a girl, married to many people (of the same family) except another such girl.

    Jitendra Mathur

    • vimala ramu says:

      Hi Mr Mathur, I have been familiar with your name from Geetasree’s writings on Mouthshut. I am so happy that you have started taking notice of my writing too.Yes, I do remember a Hindi movie on the brothers(even the widower father too) sharing one of the son’s wife due to acute shortage of girls caused by female foeticide.

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